I RELATE
I relate
These are some of the most comforting words
to hear from another person. They translate as; that’s
normal, you are not alone and its okay to feel or be that way. Words of
affirmation, or consolidation rather, so you navigate the situation with the
perspective of not being consumed by it. Shared experience helps us to relate
with the world. It may not be that particular experience that you share, but the
feeling from two independent but similar experiences. When someone relates it
doesn’t minimise an experience or enlarge it. It
simply humanises it. Making that thought, idea, experience or feeling normal…
whatever it is.
This is a truth that is universal; we need
connection. Now with social media, globalization and diversification there is
so little that separates us now. Yet with all this connectivity human
connection has become shallower and shallower. We feel the pressure to present
ourselves in manner than doesn’t reflect the honest state of our inner
beings and we carry this underlying revelation of our fraud. There are very few
people who are bold enough to share their whole truth. While it may not always
be wise or beneficial at least we can award that it is honest.
So how do we go about connecting?
How do we relate?
What do we do?
The 21st century is a very
complex time period to exist. We remain bombarded on every angle by excessive
amounts of information and we are left to decipher truth and relevance for
ourselves. To me, the very form or nature human interaction is taking on leaves
us compromised; without none but ourselves to blame. Relationship; friendships, romance,
family, colleagues, acquaintances. This delusional perspective we have of connections
leave us with an obligation to appear a certain way but less so to be the way we appear.
I’ll elaborate. INTIMACY, at times I feel
like we turned this beautiful experience into a vulgar word. Intimacy is
fundamentally closeness in relationship. It requires sharing, trusting and
vulnerability; it thrives in honesty and in security. Intimacy is a risk that
gives the people we are in relation with the ability to hurt us but also allows
for the beauty of being understood. There is no way of being known without
intimacy; there is no intimacy without risk.
Why do we desire to be known? The human
life is designed for connections. We are created to relate divinely with our maker and naturally
with other people. We relate emotionally, physically, psychologically,
intellectually and spiritually too. The third kind of relation is with us (our internal selves) and
its just as important to our well being as our relations with God and man. The
absence of a healthy relationship with God, Man and Self; diminishes the
capacity of human life. While most of us work hard to maintain man to man
relations of all natures our intimacy with man reflects the state of our
intimacy with God and self. This is evident all ways. They are triune.
We must learn to get honest and vulnerable.
Be smart though, not everyone is the right person to be intimate and in
proximity with. Its important to protect your space. Preserve your three
avenues of connection at all cost. We shouldn’t
be scared to dig into ourselves and who we are (what I call familiarity with self.) Seek out and search out the synopses of your subconscious and how they manifest openly.
Emotional awareness can be a strength if we allow it to be.
You will find that wherever you are there
are the good and the bad aspects of how we relate.
Take time to review these
from the perspective of how your community feels about the way you
relate. Take the path of awareness.
Where are you, really?
What do you want to
accomplish?
Who is in your life and why?
Are you feeling divine and natural
connection?
If so; is it as good as it could be or could it be better?
If not;
what steps could you take to enrich yourself, grow your connection to the maker
and improve your relationships all round.
THANK
YOU ALL FOR THE SUPPORT THE BLOG HAS BEEN UP FOR ALMOST 15 MONTHS NOW.
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Signed
Yours Truly
VANESSA HODZA
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